Working with the newly bereaved through Hospice Care has
only increased my sense of feeling blessed, but, too, it has confronted me with
questions like: Who will be with me when I die? Who will be around to help me
through it? Some of these people have lost partners who’ve been with them
almost 50 years. They didn’t bargain for going it alone, and it breaks my heart
to watch them grasp for hope in the confusion of grief.
Sure, I’ve listened to Death Cab for Cutie’s song, “What
Sarah Said” that ends: “So, who’s going to watch you die?” many times, but witnessing
people who have just lost their "other half" face these bigger questions, I am
compelled to do the same. People can’t just drop everything, and sometimes it’s
the people who we least expect who come through during hard times… or even, in
the end.
Some spiritual folk say that the reason spirits hang around
is because death is not that big of a transition and the spirits occasionally
need guidance towards the light. Not knowing where the light will lead,
sometimes it’s more comforting to remain in the attic of the beautiful home they had built. "They" suggest that when a person dies we say: “Your spirit
just left your body. Go look for Aunt Shoshana” (or whomever they know who has already crossed over).
Otherwise the person might hang around wondering why no one is speaking to
them. I've also heard it said that death is a continuation of how we live and maybe if we die with presence, we won't need anyone pointing us to the light.
I wonder what it will feel like to dance on the other side. But, for now, I really like being in this body!
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